Over 40? Learn to envision and live your perfect vocational day

Have you ever thought about what your perfectstart to focus on what you want and what you do
work would be? How about the pattern of a typicalnot want. Unless you place your focus on what you
work day for the rest of your life? What dailywant, you'll start to focus too much on what you
routine would get you excited and bring joy anddon't want in your work life, and then this is exactly
happiness to your work?what you'll end up with.
This didn't come with the job descriptionNow at work
The problem with job descriptions is that they areOnce at work, what exactly will you do? What
defined by someone else. They rarely take intoactivities will align your abilities and your interests and
consideration what brings you fulfillment.bring you the most joy?
How do I get started?Joy?
Whether you work for yourself or someone else, itYes joy! Now that's a question no one in the HR
is critical to start with the idea of what would be justdepartment will ever ask you about! This is where
perfect for you. For example, when would you getyou must be specific. Your mind can't tell the
up in the morning? Once up, what would yourdifference between what is real and what is imagined
morning routine be? Would you start your daywhen envisioning a work day that will bring you joy.
exercising, with a little run, or perhaps some yoga orYou must create the reality you seek.
meditation? Or would you make breakfast firstWhat are you working on?
instead? Would you eat alone or with others? WhoAre you developing software, making sandwiches,
would they be?teaching math, painting, speaking, doing financial
What would you wear to your work?analysis, taking pictures or promoting a new cosmetic
Sweats, suit, shorts?product?
What would be just perfect for you?What would give you the most joy in your work?
I'm sure by now you're thinking, "What does all ofWhat would leave you breathless? What would make
this have to do with my job? After all, I go to myMonday your best day of the week and Friday the
job and I'm stuck with the rest of the day based onworst because you have to wait until Monday to
how much time is left."resume your beloved work?
Yes, that is the traditional way of looking at yourWhat work could you do now and continue to do
work.until you stop breathing?
For those over you 40, I'm proposing a radical newWhy retiring will lead you to a quick death
way of looking at your work. You get to design yourThe other day I received the enrollment package for
entire day around the work YOU want to do insteadAARP (American Association for Retired People) in
of just the limited time left over after an empty andthe mail. This really scared me. Most Americans after
meaningless day at the office.40 do not like their work, let alone love their work.
Where would you go?They dream, instead, to one day retire, and then
Where would you go for your work? What would befinally do what they enjoy. The problem with this
perfect for you?strategy is that life tends to get in the way while
Would you like to work from home, or would youmaking long range plans. After 40, crises will hit - it's
prefer to work outdoors? Would you prefer to workonly a matter of when. If you are doing what you
alone or with others? Maybe you would rather drivelove, you have the best kind of health insurance.
a short distance to a small office and work with aWhen your crisis hits, your work will give you the
small group of other people. Or perhaps you wouldstrength to ride out the storm, and then recover
enjoy working with hundreds of others around you inquickly.
a large organization.You need to be specific
How about lunch?What are you working on that will last a lifetime?
When will you eat lunch? Where will you eat lunch?Whether you are working for yourself or someone
Who will you eat lunch with on a typical day?else, the questions are the same. What specific
Back in my corporate days, I remember sneaking outproducts or services are you offering in your perfect
at lunch (I was in management) to go for a run. Iday of work? What are the features of each of
also remember too many lunch hours spent in drabthese services? What are the benefits to others of
conference rooms, working with others while eatingwhat you are offering? Who are the ideal customers
unhealthy food. I can remember thinking how terriblefor your services? Day in and day out for the rest of
this was for my system.your life, what type of person do you want to work
How long will your work day be?with? Are they engineers, students, disabled children,
How long will you work each day? What will you doartists or advertising reps?
after work? Who will you spend your time with afterUnless you are clear about it, you and your work will
work?end up being mismatched.
This is all part of the design of your perfectNow what?
vocational day. How will your evenings go? Who willOk, now you have the vision of your perfect
you spend your evenings with? It's so important tovocational day. Is this a daily pattern you could follow
have support and love and downtime after yourfor the rest of your life? Good! Now you can start to
work ends each day. Coming home, instead, toexamine how to close the gap between your new
someone who does not support the work you lovevision and today.
will drain you and you'll have less energy for yourFor some of you, this will come easy. For others,
quest for vocational happiness and for theyears of external negative influences, and perhaps a
experience of life itself.little fear, might prevent quick action, and your next
How will your evenings go?steps might have to be small.
When will you eat dinner? Who will you be with atThe important part is that you start
dinner on a typical day? What will you do afterLittle steps turn into bigger steps. New possibilities
dinner? What does your evening look like?turn into bigger possibilities. You are unique and
Will you spend the evening alone, with others, or aspecial, and you have many gifts to offer the world.
combination of the two? Your evenings are anWith a new vision of what would be just perfect for
important part of your perfect vocational day. Thisyou, you can begin to create the second half of your
again, is something most employers don't care at alllife and work in a way that includes what is most
about, unless you are spending your evenings at theimportant to you. As you plan your perfect
office, of course! This is the difference betweenvocational day, you will have begun moving down the
creating the perfect work for you, and just draggingpath to an authentic life.
yourself home after a long day at the office andCan't I just separate my life from my work?
collapsing on the couch.This is just an excuse for not moving forward, and
When you do just a job, the quality of yourdown deep, you know this is not possible. I wish it
downtime suffers as you worry about the next daywere, but it's not. Your work and what you do
of work.impacts your health, your sense of self, your
What about sleep?relationships with others and your overall happiness.
At the end of your perfect vocational day, when willIsn't it worth taking just a little extra time to think
you go to sleep? How will you go to sleep? Whatabout your perfect work life?
nightly ritual will you follow before bed? A little yoga,Before turning 40, we needed jobs and careers to
a warm bath, light reading, television, or intimacy withbuild both our egos and our sense of self. After 40,
someone you love?jobs and careers are both limiting and outdated.
What's perfect for me?A new sense of urgency
You must keep asking yourself this question, becauseAfter 40 when your crisis hits - and it will - you will
no one else will do it for you. Be careful as youhave a new sense of urgency about your life and
design your perfect vocational day, because you willwhat to do with it. Your work, and what you do
indeed start to move towards it. Make sure youeach and every day, is a great place to start.
really know just what you want.I'll be cheering you on as you go.........
Typical job searching is all backwardsCraig Nathanson is the author of P Is For Perfect:
Most people look for jobs that are available with littleYour Perfect Vocational Day, and a coaching expert
thought to all the other hours of their days. Thewho works with people over forty. Craig's new
typical job description only covers the requirementsE-book, Discover and live your passion 365 days a
of the job. I have never seen one that coversyear is a workshop in a box designed to help busy
whether you should exercise or eat a big breakfast.adults go insane with their work. Craig's systematic
The point is: it's critical to design what you wantapproach, the trademark "Ten P process,'' helps
BEFORE you go looking for it.people break free and move toward the work they
Now you get to play by new ruleslove. Visit Craig's online community at http:\\ where
After many years of playing the work game theyou can take a class, get more ideas through Craig
traditional way, now you get to change the rules.books and CD's, get some private coaching over the
When you design the work day you want, youphone or read stories of mid-life change and renewal.
automatically start to alter your thinking, and youCraig lives in San Anselmo, California.