Bible Study, Self Help Books and Personal Development - The Big Paradox

The book stores are filled with aisles and aisles ofLetting go and letting God guide our lives seems like
self help and personal development books. Topics toit should be a no brainer. But we value control too
help you be motivated, achieve success, how tomuch. Letting go is scary, even letting go and giving
combat depression, anxiety, improve self esteem,our lives over to God. We have learned that
abound. If you are seeking help to improve in an arearelinquishing control comes with a price in the material
of your life, you'll most likely find a book on it.world. I believe we take this same fear into a
My book shelves are filled with these "helpful" books,relationship with God as well. Perhaps we don't feel
even spiritual and Christian books on the subject ofdeserving. Perhaps we are comfortable even if we
improving our spiritual walk. I am a voracious reader,are miserable in our current state. Any change can be
soaking up as much as I can. The more I've beendifficult.
reading, however, the more empty I have felt. ThisOur culture is very fast-paced and days are filled with
week I finally discovered why.endless tasks. It is so important to be still and to set
Last night I attended a Bible study where weaside quiet time every day. Connecting to our Source
discussed 2 Corinthians 5:16-21. Paul talks about howof Wholeness means spending quiet moments in
all things become new when we discover Christ. "Inmeditation, prayer, contemplative writing and reading
Christ God was reconciling the world to himself, notScripture.
counting their trespasses against them, andThere are always key points or crossroads in life
entrusting the message of reconciliation to us." Simplywhen decisions are made. Change can only occur
stated, God accepts us and allows us to experiencewhen we make a decision. At some point in the
wholeness just as we are. God loves us in all of ourjourney to wholeness, we need to quit trying to take
brokenness and lack of perfection. By definition,control.
reconciliation means to restore or to save.On the spiritual path we encounter phases that look
Our constant striving to improve, which seems like ansomething like this: Awareness, Forgiveness,
admirable goal, is really a distraction from our spiritualAcceptance, Love and Letting Go.
walk with God. The paradox lies in our strong need inFirst we become aware of our lives and our souls
discovering who we really are while at the same timenot being right. We forgive ourselves for making bad
finding ourselves in God, where true peace exists.choices and forgive others that might have harmed
We need to surrender our brokenness to God sous. We accept our situation and move on. We
that we can be made whole.experience God's true love and are able to love
I know that it has taken me a long time to discoverourselves and others in return. Finally, we let go and
my soul and who I am. Having done all kinds of worklet God lead us on this journey.
on ridding myself of past harms and false selfI encourage you to find some quiet time every day,
actions, it seems wrong to have to let go. But lettingeven if it's just ten minutes. Read your Bible. Read
go is precisely what is needed. I have heard quotedyour self help books and personal growth books. But
many times that we must die to self. To use thein the end, accept yourself for who you are, make
paradox word again, that is the paradox,peace, then let go and let God give you the
self-discovery but at the same time dying to self torestoration which is waiting for you.
be transformed by God's love.